Love and Friends and stuff...
I had someone leave me a comment on my blog earlier and I followed the link and discovered a new blog I hadn't read before, ( http://fitnessfollies.blogspot.com/ ) . If she hadn't commented I most likely wouldn't have found hers. I'm glad I did, seems like a great gal and she had a posting about friendship. I felt inclined to comment and what follows is what I wrote. Seemed almost pithy so I thought I'd post it here to share.
I have a very clear definition of friendship, that is quite close to the one you're alluding to, but let me start by telling you my definition for "Love" (a sad sad statement on the nature of the english language when one word is supposed to cover the whole range of emotions tied to it, but I digress...)
Love-(espeically the unconditional kind we all crave) is not a noun but a verb. Love is selflessly giving to another with no thought of reward. If you REALLY love someone you will do everything in your power to help them be the very best person they can be. Help them with out judgement, or your own agenda getting in the way, serve them with kindness, longsuffering and a complete lack of ego. Be there for them and then care enough to step back and let them make their own choices (even if, and perhaps especially if, you don't agree).
THAT my dear is love and isn't friendship, even the lets-just-hang-out-cause-I-Have-some-time-to-kill-and-I enjoy-your-company kind of friendship just a less intense way of loving a person? Isn't a friend someone who meets some or all of the above definition of love? That is my thought anyhow.
I also wanted to thank you for commenting on my blog, I can't think if I know you in person, cause you look a little familiar, but wehter I do or not, just based on the this one entry I think you would be the kind of person of high integrity I would very much enjoy knowing. So here's to you, have one bite of really quality chocolate (strictly for the anticarcinogenic health benefits of course ;-) and then hit the gym and know that some people admire others who set goals and work hard to achieve them.
Hope this finds everyone who reads it well, and if not, I sincerely hope you can rememdy whatever it is that ails you (better diet and more excersize anyone? ;-)
more soon, I'm sure.
I have a very clear definition of friendship, that is quite close to the one you're alluding to, but let me start by telling you my definition for "Love" (a sad sad statement on the nature of the english language when one word is supposed to cover the whole range of emotions tied to it, but I digress...)
Love-(espeically the unconditional kind we all crave) is not a noun but a verb. Love is selflessly giving to another with no thought of reward. If you REALLY love someone you will do everything in your power to help them be the very best person they can be. Help them with out judgement, or your own agenda getting in the way, serve them with kindness, longsuffering and a complete lack of ego. Be there for them and then care enough to step back and let them make their own choices (even if, and perhaps especially if, you don't agree).
THAT my dear is love and isn't friendship, even the lets-just-hang-out-cause-I-Have-some-time-to-kill-and-I enjoy-your-company kind of friendship just a less intense way of loving a person? Isn't a friend someone who meets some or all of the above definition of love? That is my thought anyhow.
I also wanted to thank you for commenting on my blog, I can't think if I know you in person, cause you look a little familiar, but wehter I do or not, just based on the this one entry I think you would be the kind of person of high integrity I would very much enjoy knowing. So here's to you, have one bite of really quality chocolate (strictly for the anticarcinogenic health benefits of course ;-) and then hit the gym and know that some people admire others who set goals and work hard to achieve them.
Hope this finds everyone who reads it well, and if not, I sincerely hope you can rememdy whatever it is that ails you (better diet and more excersize anyone? ;-)
more soon, I'm sure.
posted by Deb Bluth at 5:52 AM
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